Ah.

So...usually, when you're mad, one of the things your anger is telling you is, hey, it's not okay he treated you like that! It's not right!

And sometimes, when someone you're already angry with is nice, it's confusing, because...why are they being nice, when they were mean before? And maybe it's because they're sorry, or because they were scared before, or they just know more now, or lots of reasons, but if you're still angry with them over the first thing, it can almost feel worse when they're nice, because it feels like...pressure, to not care about the first thing. But it was still fucked up! It's still not okay, it doesn't just get erased.

So maybe the anger is saying something like, hey, maybe I'm not ready to forgive you. And I don't have to forgive you, no matter how nice you are, until I'm ready. You get to decide that.

Does that sound like something your anger might be saying?