1. you may rest assured that should it come up, that is a caliber of wolfshit i am willing to call him on
2. to clarify for myself, i mean 'not assuming intent broadly' as more of tactical consideration than a moral one. i've managed to protect myself from a fair amount of pain and anger by building the habit of taking a breath and asking myself 'did he actually say the thing, or am I making what seems to me an obvious interpretation'. and while it's not only your responsibility to do that, it's useful
i mean, what's better: you get hurt by something he didn't mean, and eventually he apologizes, or you don't get hurt at all?
for the record i would like him to learn to work on this also but i think he's gonna take longer than you and you could save yourself some headaches in the meantime
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2. to clarify for myself, i mean 'not assuming intent broadly' as more of tactical consideration than a moral one. i've managed to protect myself from a fair amount of pain and anger by building the habit of taking a breath and asking myself 'did he actually say the thing, or am I making what seems to me an obvious interpretation'. and while it's not only your responsibility to do that, it's useful
i mean, what's better: you get hurt by something he didn't mean, and eventually he apologizes, or you don't get hurt at all?
for the record i would like him to learn to work on this also but i think he's gonna take longer than you and you could save yourself some headaches in the meantime
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you sure you want to deal with this?
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i'm sure it's something I'm willing to work at for both of you
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