He settles at last, snuggled in and mostly-formless now, and very much not planning on vacating the sweater any time soon. "So. When you feel something bad and don't tell someone because it would hurt them, that's good."
"It's...a tool that's good to have. Sometimes, even if something hurts to hear, it's important to know. So it's good to give yourself space to think about it. If you tell someone about this feeling, will they be able to do anything about it? Like...if I did something that made you feel scared, or hurt...I would be sad to learn that. But I would also be able to apologize to you and stop doing that thing, so it would be very good to tell me. But if I tell Arthur that I'm jealous, what's he gonna do about it? Be mean to you so you like him less? I don't want him to do that! So that one can stay private. But if, maybe, I had a really bad day and I yelled at him for unrelated stuff, maybe it would be useful then, to tell him that it's not that I hated him or that he deserved it, it's that I was being kind of stupid because I was jealous. Then hopefully the useful thing is just that he feels a little better, because he understands it wasn't his fault."
That's a lot of different possibilities.
"The important thing isn't to get it exactly right every time. Nobody does that. The important thing is...that whether it hurts people should be something you consider. And it's good to consider first, because it's really easy to say big things you don't mean when you're upset, or...things you do mean but in ways that are more hurtful than they have to be. And if you don't say something, you can always say it later. But if you say things right away without thinking, you can never un-say them. Does that make sense?"
"It's something a lot of people struggle with," Jedao says honestly. "And even most people who are good at not doing it sometimes slip up if they're really mad. It's pretty normal. But it's something you can practice not doing, and that helps the people you're mad at and you, too."
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That's a lot of different possibilities.
"The important thing isn't to get it exactly right every time. Nobody does that. The important thing is...that whether it hurts people should be something you consider. And it's good to consider first, because it's really easy to say big things you don't mean when you're upset, or...things you do mean but in ways that are more hurtful than they have to be. And if you don't say something, you can always say it later. But if you say things right away without thinking, you can never un-say them. Does that make sense?"
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"I wonder if John ever did."
Fade here?
He hums softly, idly. He's happy to be napped on.